Condoms Can Be Sexy
Debating whether or not to wear a condom, regardless of relationship status, is an ongoing issue. But who risks the most during sex without a condom? People with vaginas and vulvas, and gay males. The bottom line is that those who are receiving, whether anally or vaginally, find themselves more exposed to potential sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies. So penis-owners who choose not to wear condoms are creating inequality within the bedroom, which is not a good look.
Comfort is key when it comes to condoms: if you don’t find the right condom size then yes, it may not be the best sex ever. But patience is a virtue! It’s possible to try out a few condom options and maybe even incorporate them into your foreplay. Every sex partner has the right to feel safe against unwanted pregnancy and infections. Here are a few simple ideas to help you vibe better with condoms.
Just add lube
Adding a few drops of personal lubricant to the tip of a condom can significantly increase pleasure for penis owners. Some even claim that it feels better than sex without a condom as the lubricant works to heighten sensation at the head of the penis. Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, MD, Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, warns that more than 2 drops is risky as it could lead the condom to slip off during sex, which puts you right back at square one.
Experiment with condom textures
Today, there is so much more choice when it comes to condoms because they have been designed to provide pleasure, on top of protection. Thinner or new material condoms (polyisoprene, for example) can give heightened sensuality during sex. Dotted, ribbed or condoms with special cooling or warming lubricants can create intense stimulation and pleasure for both parties.
Include condoms in foreplay
For penis owners with painful condom experiences in their past, it can be an erection killer. So the trick is to find the sex appeal of condoms. Think about how the condom finds its way onto the penis – a willing partner can take control, using their mouth or hands to put the condom on, with a touch that they know gets results.
There’s still some unlearning to do about condoms especially amongst penis owners, who are required to let go of past experiences or consider that pleasure is mental as well as physical. Open communication with sex partners is essential, as well as a non-judgemental attitude.